relationship cheating
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Greetings, friends. Let's talk about jealousy. What constitutes cheating? It seems to me everyone has a different facet, but there are some common accepted concepts that we all consider to be cheating. Why do people cheat in a relationship? I consider myself a jealous person and this issue often bothers me, right up to the point of paranoia and I really don't like it.
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What is considered cheating in a relationship? We don’t want to get into semantics here; what we mean by “cheating” is slightly different for everyone. But there are some general guidelines:
- If someone is not open about their relationship, then the relationship may be considered unbalanced.
- If the person does things which make the relationship feel unbalanced – such as hiding things from you, or talking too much about other people, or having erratic behavior – then it may be considered cheating.
- Polyamory (multiple relationships) and open relationships (such as living with a friend) do not count as cheating if they are not open about the details of their relationships with others.
- When someone tells you that they have opened up their relationships in order to please you, and you are making demands on them to keep things exactly as they are, then this can be considered cheating for various reasons: You are putting pressure on them to “make it work” by being “perfect”; You are forcing them to put up with your behavior without complaining (which is not fair); You are disrupting their life in order to prove that you can maintain an intimate relationship with them; and They will generally make decisions around how they should spend time with others because of your demands.
- If there is very little communication about your relationship in general or at any given time, it can be considered cheating if it damages your ability to have an intimate relationship with someone else; this doesn’t apply when one person has a pre-existing intimate relationship with another person.
In short: Only communicate if both parties want to communicate; only communicate when both parties agree that communication works better than silence; and only communicate when both parties agree that communication works better than silence and at least two people understand each other well enough that they would work together to do so even if no one else was involved (and so on).
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Jealousy is a destructive feeling; insecure people get jealous. You can always talk to your partner, but it is important to raise your self-esteem first.
